Wedding guests mostly believe they can enjoy the luxury of attending the festivities without stressing over the countless steps that go into arranging the event. Donning fancy clothes, buying a gift, and getting to the church on time appear to be the extent of efforts exerted.

However, conscientious invitees will make sure to follow a list of "don'ts" along with the required "do's." Equally important is to know what not to do along with what should be done. First of all, do not allow yourself to be over-served at the bar! While it can be easy to get wrapped up in the party atmosphere, remember that it is also a seminal moment in the lives of the bride and groom. A guest sprawled on the bathroom floor or knocking over the cake before the cutting will mar any memories the couple will keep. Don't be responsible for leaving a scar on the day.

Female guests know to not wear white, cream, or ivory when choosing their attire for the day as a gesture of respect to the bride. Her dream gown will stand out in pictures and won't compete for attention in the photos. Also, given the seriousness of the vows exchanged, don't cheapen the event by flaunting a risque dress. Leave the thigh high slits, cleavage, and back baring numbers for another time where it will be more suitable (if ever at all).

Brides agonize over the guest list -- which coworkers to include, how many second cousins make the cut, and if a neighbor will boycott the next cookout if not invited. Both monetary and space restrictions mean that a lifetime of friends, family and acquaintances can be barred from attending. Simply put, the names written on the invitation envelope are the only ones the bride expects to come. Do not bring a boyfriend, child, or guest if the names are not listed. Not only is this in bad taste, it can mean added costs which were not planned.

Remember that although you are a guest, the couple and their family are footing the bill. If something is not available or offered, do not ask for it. If the bar serves economy liquor but you only partake in Grey Goose, then bypass martinis for the night and ask for a beer. Once the roast beef runs out, do not demand the caterer bring out a replacement. Enjoy the bluegrass band even if your playlist only features indie artists. The bride and groom tailored the reception to reflect their tastes and budget, and guests should feel honored and on their best behavior.

Once the vows have been exchanged, some acquaintances feel obliged to ask rather personal questions now that the relationship is "legal." There are few times when it is appropriate to ask any of the following: "When are you starting a family?" "Why aren't you taking your husband's last name?" "Will you continue working or stay at home?" Never inquire about such personal topics unless you are the maid of honor or a close relation. The couple has made their love public, but that does not mean all the details of their marriage need to be.

Although a wedding deserves to be enjoyed and celebrated, everyone should keep in mind the sanctity of the affair and conduct themselves as such. As additional incentive for good behavior, know that both grandparents and a pastor or two may be present... no one wants to make a fool in front of either.

-- Jennifer Mackethan