After food (and the happy couple, of course), music is the most important component of any reception. Whether you prefer strings and trumpets or your taste runs to live blues music, there are two choices to be made: live band versus a DJ.

Both options have their bonuses and set backs, apart from cost. Be sure to take in to account your reception budget, atmosphere of the event, and expectations of the bridal party and guests when making the decision.

Good DJs (short for "disc jockey," for anyone born after 1985) can involve the crowd as much as a five-person band. Although there may not be a stage to storm, an interactive DJ will excite the crowd with funny banter, taking song requests, and even enticing 85-year-old grandmothers onto the dance floor.

Live bands provide an actual show along with a musical backdrop. Many incorporate dance moves, costumes, and light shows into the performance. Enjoying an excellent concert will add to the festivities and be remembered long after the reception.

Digital technology provides DJs the advantage of playing practically any song that can be downloaded. Bands need to be informed ahead of time about special songs they may need to learn for the "father of the bride" dance or that hold special meeting for the couple. There may even be an added cost for this special service. Many DJs now use laptops (with digital music) and can easily add to their library without adding to the bottom line.

Along with the ease of technology, DJs frequently only need an outlet to plug in smaller speakers and a CD player or laptop. Bands alternatively need a higher energy supply that the reception site either must provide or bring in with generators. Also, the risers, larger speakers and microphones take up additional floor space. Tighter locations accommodate DJs whereas larger venues offer the perfect stage (literally) for live bands.

Professional DJs or ensembles provide client lists to contact about past performances. If this is not an option, ask to see a recording before making any decision. A DJ who bills himself as "entertaining" may accomplish this with either silly games or embarrassing antics. If you hope for a sophisticated affair, it is best to weed out potential disasters ahead of time. Stay away from providing deposits to anyone who will not honor your request to see past weddings or speak to any brides and grooms.

Once the contract has been signed, create a tentative list of "must have" songs, "hoped for" songs, and "do not play even if Great Aunt Edna requests them" songs. Too many brides focus on the songs they want to hear and run for the door when they hear the first strains of "Electric Slide."

After confirming the playlist, express any desires for dress, performance style, and other quirks to help personalize the performance. As with the songs, clearly state your preferences and if Bermuda shorts and Hawaiian shirts are forbidden.

Bands and DJs often have requirements of their own they expect to be followed once their services are secured. Before signing anything, read the contract line by line. Some demand food, accommodations, and even alcohol while performing. While no one deserves to hear a drunken rendition of "California Dreamin'," this may be the case if you agree to the conditions without understanding the contract. However, providing food for the performers can easily be handled by the catering staff.

For the one part of the reception that will truly be enjoyed by everyone, spend the necessary time evaluating (and refusing, if needed!) all the options. When your guests are demanding a second encore instead of ignoring a sad singer, the extra time will be worth it.

-- Jennifer Mackethan